I don’t want to bother you or anything but I really need some advice. I have super indie and different music taste[s] from everyone else I know. You probably have never even heard of any of these people but I thought I would list my favorites: Harry Styles, Morgan Wallen, Taylor Swift, The Weekend, and Tame Impala. This has made making friends super hard for me because just no one wants to admit that I have super indie taste or they just laugh and walk away when I expect them to not know. The few friends I do have usually get really annoyed when I cannot get tickets to concerts and I don’t stop complaining to emphasize my indie and different traits. Is there anything I can do? 

Remember, 

Gaslight, Gatekeep, Girlboss 

xoxo 

Dear Reader,

Your problem is certainly not a rare one, despite how much you probably want it to be. It’s a serious issue, this “mommy says I’m special” mentality that you unfortunately possess. Thankfully, however, the solution is simple.

First, I recommend you reflect on your taste in music. Chances are if you’ve heard an artist’s music on the radio, they’re not different, and therefore, neither are you.  Second, I think it is time to re-evaluate your choice of friends. Are they mean to you because you annoy them by trying to be different all the time? Should you make friends who can actually put up with you? Assuming the answer to both questions is yes, it may be time to make some changes to either your music taste or your mentality. 

And if you find that you cannot live up to these “different” and “indie” standards you’ve set for yourself, perhaps consider never listening to music again. 

Much love,

W.

Ok, so my friend has been super annoying lately. Like she won’t stop bothering me about anything and everything and I don’t know how to let her know that I don’t care. She keeps trying to be different with her music taste and gets offended when I make fun of her for it. How do I let her down easy?

Thanks.

Dear Reader,

When somebody is annoying on accident, definitely don’t say anything. While you may not intend for it to be, it could come across as you being mean. Plus, if you ignore things, there is a small, yet promising chance they might go away. 

But if they’re being intentionally annoying don’t hesitate to let them know how you feel every time they bother you. If that doesn’t stop their annoying behavior, it will surely encourage them to keep their distance. 

PS: Please tell your friend to read the above article with regards to her “different” music taste.

Much love,

W.